The other day I was talking to a man and he was asking me about Lee Brice and a song he had written and it wasn’t Garth Brooks’ More than a Memory. At the end of the conversation he looked at me and said “Why don’t you look it up and let me know.” Let him know … what he was trying to remember. I was immediately taken back to the ex boyfriend who told me to google things before I spoke. And knowing how much I already googled I couldn’t help but feel like I’d been slapped clear across the face.
Ever since then, in everyone – girl friends, guy friends, coworkers – what I’ve looked for (and respected) is people who enjoy questions, who don’t get annoyed when I ask a stupid one, who appreciate the fact that I know I don’t know everything about every subject.
Sometimes it’s good to go through the bad relationships because you realize things you need that you never really realized wouldn’t just come naturally.
Last night, after dinner with my grandparents, aunt, and cousins for my grandparents’ 66th wedding anniversary, and after my brother and cousin and I went to see 21 Jump Street, I sat at home and read this article. I started highlighting this line: “The minute you start batting eyelashes, eyelashes is all you’ve got.” Because I thought, some girl, some where, needs to hear that. Then I realized that everything that followed deserved being reread over and over again. This isn’t just for teenage girls.
You are beautiful. You are enough. The world we live in is twisted and broken and for your entire life you will be subjected to all kinds of lies that tell you that you are not enough. You are not thin enough. You are not tan enough. You are not smooth, soft, shiny, firm, tight, fit, silky, blonde, hairless enough. Your teeth are not white enough. Your legs are not long enough. Your clothes are not stylish enough. You are not educated enough. You don’t have enough experience. You are not creative enough.
There is a beauty industry, a fashion industry, a television industry, (and most unfortunately) a pornography industry: and all of these have unique ways of communicating to bright young women: you are not beautiful, sexy, smart or valuable enough.
You must have the clarity and common sense to know that none of that is true. None of it.
You were created for a purpose, exactly so. You have innate value. You are loved more than you could ever comprehend; it is mind-boggling how much you are adored. There has never been, and there will never be another you. Therefore, you have unique thoughts to offer the world. They are only yours, and we all lose out if you are too fearful to share them.
You are beautiful. You are valuable. You are enough.
Now bookmark that.